Mother details her heartbreaking decision to carry her terminally-ill baby to term so she could donate the infant’s organs and enjoy just 15 hours of life with her


A mother has told of her heartbreak and joy after making the agonizing decision to proceed with her pregnancy – despite being told her daughter was ‘incompatible with life’.

Abbey Ahern, 34, who lives in Cashion, Oklahoma, was devastated when she was told at her 19-week scan that her daughter had the terminal illness anencephaly which meant she would not live beyond a few hours.The stay-at-home mother said that carrying her daughter to term was the ‘most difficult thing I have ever done’.

'Incompatible with life': Abbey and Robert Ahern, both 34, made the agonizing decision  to go ahead with the birth of their terminally-ill baby Annie, pictured with her parents

Family: The couple, from Cashion, Oklahoma, decided to enjoy Annie's short life with their other daughters Dylan and Harper, pictured, now seven and five

Devastating: They were told at Abbey's 19-week scan that Annie, pictured, had the terminal illness anencephaly

The family spent just 14 hours and 58 minutes with Annie before she passed away. According to the National Institutes of Health, the defect – which means the baby has an underdeveloped brain and incomplete skull – affects around one in 1,000 pregnancies, most of which result in miscarriage. As a result, approximately one in 10,000 babies in the US are born with anencephaly.

Abbey and her pilot husband Robert, also 34, decided to have a live birth so that they could spend time with their daughter and donate her organs – making Annie the first infant newborn donor in the state.Abbey told Daily Mail Online: ‘Carrying a terminally-ill baby to term was by far the most difficult thing I have ever done…’For us, even in the midst of our terrible heartbreak we were able to see so much beauty.

‘The process of donating Annie’s organs has been incredibly healing to me, knowing that my baby has saved lives.’At times she said she felt overwhelmed by the situation but she drew comfort from the support of her husband.

She added: ‘The entire thing felt impossible. If it wasn’t for my husband and our strong support system I believe Annie’s story would have been completely different. Probably much darker.’ Although nobody tried to put them off their decision, Abbey said she was met with some skepticism from family and friends.

From the first moment, we hoped for a live birth and planned a C-section. We wanted a few precious memories with our girl.’No-one tried to change our minds, but whenever I told certain family members and friends, they asked, “Are you sure this is what you want to do?”…’Even my own sisters both told me later that they thought we were crazy for wanting to carry to term,’ she told

Abbey – who had two older daughters, Dylan and Harper, now seven and five, when Annie was born, and has since given birth to Iva, two – said news of her third daughter’s diagnosis ‘sucked the air right out of my lungs’.She added: ‘I knew what he [the doctor] was saying but I couldn’t really apply it to us or to our baby.’

Afterwards they asked the doctor for the gender of their unborn child and decided to name her on the spot.’Naming our two older girls had been a struggle. But right then, we named her easily: Annie, which means, “grace.” ‘We knew she had a purpose — even though she was not made for this world,’ Abbey said.

During her pregnancy with Harper, she had suffered from pre-eclampsia which resulted in her daughter being born at 33 weeks and spending a month in NICU.Ahead of Annie’s birth they had numerous hospital meetings to plan everything required to ensure that they were able to donate her organs to transplant donor service LifeShare.

Terminal: The defect, which means the baby has an underdeveloped brain and incomplete skull, affects around one in 1,000 pregnancies, most of which end in miscarriage

Prepared: Abbey said that before the birth on June 26, 2013 she had 'such a sense of peace'

Abbey said being asked innocent questions about her pregnancy was agony but she usually tried to answer as if nothing was wrong.She said they did not know how long their daughter would survive, but they knew it would be short.

‘One of my big fears was that I’d be at the hospital and her time would be slipping away, and I wouldn’t have what I needed for special moments, like the hat and booties I knitted for her pictures or a gift for her sisters,’ she said. Their marriage counselor gave them a white dress for Annie to wear which they packed for the hospital with a hat and booties.

Dylan requested that they bring a copy of the Christian book Heaven Is For Real, as told by Colton Burpo to his parents Todd and Sonja, so they could read it to Annie after she was born.Abbey said that before the birth on June 26, 2013 she had ‘such a sense of peace’.

She first became aware of Annie’s arrival when she heard ‘a commotion’ and saw the photographer taking pictures.’She had the mask on and her eyes were full of tears, but she was smiling. I knew Annie was here. ‘She didn’t cry much, but I heard her making noise. They showed her to me, and she was so beautiful,’ she said.

Courtesy :DailyMail